Yes my friends all you need is love –
It’s St. Valentine’s day again and we are getting all loved up or still looking for that right person to get loved up with. That’s the name of the game.
I was thinking that it’s maybe a good time for you to think about how much you love ‘you’.
Do you ever look at the time you are giving to yourself to really appreciate ‘you’?
The reason I ask this question is because without looking after ‘you’ and putting ‘you’ first you can’t really give proper attention and care to anyone else.
I can hear you say “Well isn’t that being selfish?”
Yes, we are taught to put others before ourselves and to give before we receive but I can think of one analogy that explains perfectly why I say take care of ‘you’ first.
Most of us are used to air travel and before we take off the cabin crew always perform the safely routine. In that routine they explain about the oxygen mask that drops down in front of you when there is a dire emergency situation. They always state that you MUST put the mask on yourself first before you attend to anyone or anything else. Imagine if you didn’t – you wouldn’t be able to help anyone – you’d be dead!
This is the same way I explain about caring for yourself first – meaning that you love yourself enough to have proper rest – enjoy an active social life – take regular exercise – make time to pursue your hobbies and interest – take ‘brain breaks’ and recoup. Feed yourself the best foods. Develop a habit of having health checks and seeing that you’re well groomed.
This way you will have the energy and mind to take care of everything and everyone else.
I suspect that you know only too well that you can’t be as effective if you are tired and washed out.
When you are ‘walking your talk’ your children will follow your example, you’ll be role model for them to emulate. Your work colleagues will admire you – your significant other will be proud of you. You will have the real inner core of love emanating from you. It’s about saying to the world “I’m worth it! I have something of value to offer the world that can make a true difference to my loved ones” This is what real love is all about.
And without being true to ‘you’ there is no love.
So go ahead and send yourself a St. Valentines card and give ‘you’ a love treat today.
Happy Valentines!
With Love – Together We Can!
Jennifer x
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Jennifer Beaumont-Whyte
Coach – EFT Master Practitioner – Author
Founder of Inspiration Junction! and Business Love.
Causing miracles for inspired men and women seeking excellence in life, love and business.
Loving yourself is so true, I will be changing jobs in my current organisation, so i will have the opportunity to rewrite the rules of engagement by taking non valued activities out of my role and sticking to the brief. Just think for a minute (or a few seconds) how many flowers will you get from your employers if you died? You may already be dead, being overloaded resulting in poor performance. so treat yourselve, understand what’s urgent and what’s important. I always have a lunch break which includes a walk round town. I get in early to relax with a cup of green tea, I leave on time because i always have commitment in the evening, my colleagues expect that.
So they won’t halt that polar express out of the building. If they want something set a meeting time around your schedule. Now that’s really important.
Urgent action are only time dependant on when, so plan and create space within your workload. Do not work from bell to bell. Networking during your work day can have so many advantages to improve your knowledge of people skill and ways to work SMARTER. I manage to absorb four jobs within the organisation and still created time for myself. Iwish I knew this 15 years ago when I was dead, learnt the hard way, but i’m very much alive and kicking today.
Go on treat yourselve !!!!
Thank you Des for sharing this profound insight. More and more companies are becoming aware that there is life after work and allowing you express the fact that you have other important things in your life apart from work.
Thank you for sharing and I wish you good luck with your new position and new rules.
Take good care of you – Jen BW x
Excellent article Jen, especially the part about having regular health checks! 🙂
Oh, to stop the guilt when putting myself first. There’s a difference between self-care and selfishness. It’s how we do it that counts. Respecting others is, of course, essential. Yet we actually respect others more if we first properly, wholly and wholeheartedly look after ourselves first.
Thanks for this, Jen – it’s something we all need to be reminded about. Looking after and loving ourselves is definitely not selfish. as you point out, if we’re not in a good place then how can we serve or love anyone else?
So Happy Valentines Day to me! And to you 🙂
Much love,
Ian
Very good Jen, well written in terms of language and presentation. keep up the good work and hope to catch up with you soon. from nick
Thank you my teacher ;0) Speak soon Jx
This is so true! We are always taught to give of ourselves, to improve and to strive to reach for the moon and the stars, but we are not taught how to stop and look at ourselves and make sure that we are looking after ouselves properly. Sometimes, a period of reflection is required to ensure that all is well on the homefront. This I wholeheartedly condone, evenif I am not every good at doing it myself 🙂
Happy Valentines everyone!